If youˈve often been told that you need to build up your self­confidence, but didnˈt know exactly how, the following is a guide that will help you get there.2·1·c·n·j·y

     Understand your weak points. Everyone has weaknesses. Once you discover your weaknesses, work to overcome them. If, for exam-ple, you are a shy person, attend a social event and force yourself to speak to at least one or two people first. Youˈll discover that others appreciate your friendliness, and your nervousness will slowly disappear.

     Spend time with positive people. People influence our lives. Spend time with successful, confident people at school and work. Ple-ase observe their behavior, their verbal and nonverbal language, and their ways of handling difficult situations. Remember, even thes-e people have had to deal with a lack of confidence at one time or another.

     Set personal goals for yourself. If you have a fear you need to overcome, challenge yourself to face that fear head on. Set goals for yourself. With each goal you meet, your self­confidence will increase. If youˈre afraid of trying new things because you might“fail，”give yourself a chance.

     Greet each day with a sense of opportunity. Start your mornings by reading something inspirational. Think positively about yourself, and greet each day with enthusiasm and a renewed energy for living.

    Donˈt fear refuse. All of us have experienced and will continue to experience refuse in our lives. Try not to take refuse personally. Sometimes constructive criticism can be perceived as a form of rejection to a personal suffering from low self­esteem. Remind yourself that you are an excellent person and that you are not afraid to take risks.